harmful behaviors. The object of addiction — food, drugs, gambling –
doesn’t matter because the cycle can be very difficult to break. After a
20-year battle of his own with addiction, noted author and lecturer Scott Kiloby began “looking” in a different way.
He writes that he stopped turning away from negative thoughts and feelings from his past and looking for release in the future. He began to face his suffering directly, and allow all negative and positive energies of thought, emotion, and sensation to simply be as they are. He began to rest and recognize presence as the stable foundation in which these energies temporarily come and go.
Scott travels across the U.S. and overseas giving talks on understanding our “non-dual presence”. He describes his message as “the Middle Way” — freedom from dualistic extremes. “Each of us believes separation is real. We believe we are separate people living in a world of other separate things and people,” Scott says. “In that stage of our lives, we tend to emphasize ‘personal’ viewpoints about ourselves, others, and the world.”
“To say that we live in self-centeredness and conflict is not a moral judgment. It’s a statement of fact,” he explains. “The good news is that awakening from this self-centered dream is possible in this lifetime. This awakening reveals a depth of freedom and contentment that no relationship, job, material item, self-improvement plan, or other worldly accomplishment can bring. This level of freedom releases us from our endless seeking towards
future fulfillment and lets our true loving nature shine through, into every area of life.”
He began inquiring into the nature of our belief in separation, how it arises, and how to make presence primary in his life.
Scott discovered that the key to release from the addictive cycle exists in the one place addicts refuse to look—the present moment.
“This is about seeing through the belief in separation. In the simple recognition of presence as our true nature, we go from being self-centered to
being selfless. That makes all the difference. That seeing is what life is all about. It’s why we are here on earth.”
In Scott’s workshops on non-duality, a person’s every position and belief is challenged, including belief about the self, others, our spirituality, and the
world. This allows those attending to open completely to the present moment – to unfold in a new way, free from identification with thought.
“This freedom can never be captured by words,” Scott explains in his writings. “It cannot be known as a belief or a mental position. It is much too simple. It is your very presence. And yet words are all
we have to communicate with each other. In looking for freedom in the future, or in ideas about yourself, others, or the world, it is missed.
“In relaxing completely into the present moment, you see that it was never lost. It is always and already here. And this presence, this freedom of hereness, includes all stories of ourselves, others, and the
world. Once the belief in separation is seen through, we are free to experience and celebrate life in all its diversity.”
Scott Kiloby is the author of “Love’s Quiet Revolution: The End of the Spiritual Search” and “Reflections of the One Life: Daily Pointers to
Enlightenment.” His addiction and recovery program called “The Natural Rest Method: A Revolutionary, Simple Way to Overcome Any Addiction,” is scheduled for release this year. On Saturday, May 19, at 7:30pm, Scott is offering
a free presentation at Purity Spring Resort as part of Evergreen’s Integrative Wellness Fair. On Sunday, May 20, he is doing a day-long “non-duality”
workshop in Madison, hosted by the Eaton Satsang.